MWC 153: Permission to Be Unavailable

It's not just about making time for yourself, especially when there is just so much vying for your attention. It's also about intentionally staking and guarding your time and acknowledging the fact that you are allowed to be unavailable AND still be a good mother. In this episode of the Moms Without Capes Podcast, we’re talking all about creating uninterrupted and sacred time to get into the flow and be your creative self. Join therapist, life coach, and mom Onnie Michalsky as she seeks to support moms who are ready to step into their best selves!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 00:00:00:24 A1 cyan Today we are talking about giving ourselves permission to be unavailable. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:05:64 A1 cyan Let me just make sure that I am live in the group. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:12:80 A1 cyan You can hear me? Yes. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:15:37 A1 cyan Okay, perfect. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:16:60 A1 cyan I'll keep my phone right here to make sure that I'm seeing comments. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:21:44 A1 cyan So if you're watching this live, let me know. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:23:58 A1 cyan If you're watching this replay, #replay, let me know that as well. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:30:64 A1 cyan Hold on one second. Let me grab this. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:33:44 A1 cyan I want to share with you the book that this episode is coming from. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:43:20 A1 cyan I should have had it right here. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:44:73 A1 cyan I am I'll show you. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:46:75 A1 cyan I have my office here, right? 1
Speaker 1 00:00:48:68 A1 cyan But it's so dark when I sit in that corner. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:52:57 A1 cyan So instead, I came and sitting by the window. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:54:91 A1 cyan So that way I get natural light. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:57:80 A1 cyan Otherwise, I'm just sitting in a dark hole. 1
Speaker 1 00:00:59:80 A1 cyan Okay, hold on. Let me grab this book. 1
Speaker 1 00:01:08:88 A1 cyan All right. So today's episode is being 1
Speaker 1 00:01:14:00 A1 cyan inspired, it's going to say brought to you, they're not a sponsor, being inspired 1
Speaker 1 00:01:19:32 A1 cyan by Find Your Un unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky. 1
Speaker 1 00:01:23:50 A1 cyan If you've been watching my lives lately, 1
Speaker 1 00:01:26:49 A1 cyan you see I have been obsessed. 1
Speaker 1 00:01:33:63 A1 cyan I've been following Eve Rodsky, and she is 1
Speaker 1 00:01:37:45 A1 cyan the author of the book Fair Play, as well as Find Your Un unicorn Space. 1
Speaker 1 00:01:42:49 A1 cyan And she's all about helping women, 1
Speaker 1 00:01:45:69 A1 cyan well, creating systematic changes really, beyond the individual, but helping women 1
Speaker 1 00:01:51:13 A1 cyan recognize that they are worthy of making space for themselves, for self expression, 1
Speaker 1 00:01:56:75 A1 cyan for self care, for pursuing passions, for doing all the things instead of putting 1
Speaker 1 00:02:03:12 A1 cyan themselves in the background of their lives. 1
Speaker 1 00:02:05:29 A1 cyan And 1
Speaker 1 00:02:07:40 A1 cyan then not being able to be fully present, like not being able to 1
Speaker 1 00:02:13:20 A1 cyan be who they are, like their unique self, which is what the unicorn space is about, 1
Speaker 1 00:02:18:39 A1 cyan is about helping women find what it is that makes them them, like makes you you. 1
Speaker 1 00:02:26:13 A1 cyan Instead of simply going with the flow or 1
Speaker 1 00:02:32:89 A1 cyan going with the status quo, the expectations that we may have that society 1
Speaker 1 00:02:37:11 A1 cyan has placed on us about what a mom should be, really leaning into what makes you 1
Speaker 1 00:02:43:19 A1 cyan unique and allowing yourself or giving yourself permission to 1
Speaker 1 00:02:47:85 A1 cyan step out of the background of your life and be interesting again. 1
Speaker 1 00:02:51:92 A1 cyan When I read Fair Play, 1
Speaker 1 00:02:56:84 A1 cyan our missions were so aligned that I felt pulled to really explore her world more. 1
Speaker 1 00:03:05:29 A1 cyan I recently got certified as a Fair Play facilitator. 1
Speaker 1 00:03:09:63 A1 cyan What that means is Fair Play is a system that works to bring equity in the home. 1
Speaker 1 00:03:18:93 A1 cyan So equity with the domestic responsibilities as well as childcare 1
Speaker 1 00:03:22:93 A1 cyan responsibilities and really helping women step into their power and ask for... 1
Speaker 1 00:03:29:50 A1 cyan I have that problem with ask for help. 1
Speaker 1 00:03:32:33 A1 cyan Take equal initiative or equal ownership 1
Speaker 1 00:03:36:90 A1 cyan of what it takes to run a home for both partners, your husband and the wife or the 1
Speaker 1 00:03:43:35 A1 cyan mom and the dad, instead of the mom doing it all. 1
Speaker 1 00:03:50:92 A1 cyan I'm getting off topic a little bit, but I 1
Speaker 1 00:03:53:67 A1 cyan wanted to give you a brief background about 1
Speaker 1 00:03:58:50 A1 cyan what today's podcast episode or Facebook Live is about. 1
Speaker 1 00:04:02:61 A1 cyan It's about finding a unicorn space. 1
Speaker 1 00:04:04:81 A1 cyan One of the rules or one of the things that we need to make sure that we are giving 1
Speaker 1 00:04:08:95 A1 cyan ourselves is that permission to be unavailable, which can be very scary. 1
Speaker 1 00:04:13:59 A1 cyan We carry around these things in our pockets, our phones that prevent us 1
Speaker 1 00:04:20:33 A1 cyan from setting those boundaries and giving us time to be uninterrupted 1
Speaker 1 00:04:28:28 A1 cyan and to get into the flow and to really lean into that creative part of us. 1
Speaker 1 00:04:35:71 A1 cyan Because how many times during the day do you... 1
Speaker 1 00:04:39:72 A1 cyan I used to get very resentful of my husband 1
Speaker 1 00:04:43:13 A1 cyan because I felt like there was not a project or there wasn't a 1
Speaker 1 00:04:47:57 A1 cyan time that I was able to dive uninterrupted into a project. 1
Speaker 1 00:04:51:65 A1 cyan I never felt that, or I could not never, I shouldn't say never. 1
Speaker 1 00:04:55:28 A1 cyan It was very rare that I was able to feel 1
Speaker 1 00:04:57:75 A1 cyan that sense of accomplishment because I hear this all the time, us moms, we 1
Speaker 1 00:05:05:65 A1 cyan get in these ruts where every day is the same. 1
Speaker 1 00:05:08:56 A1 cyan You clean the room and then it gets a mess and then you clean. 1
Speaker 1 00:05:11:21 A1 cyan You never get that sense of accomplishment. 1
Speaker 1 00:05:13:72 A1 cyan I saw a Reel the other day. 1
Speaker 1 00:05:14:98 A1 cyan It was a picture. 1
Speaker 1 00:05:16:98 A1 cyan It was a video of a clean kitchen floor. 1
Speaker 1 00:05:19:70 A1 cyan They're like, a rare shot of the 2.3 1
Speaker 1 00:05:22:77 A1 cyan seconds that this floor is going to be clean. 1
Speaker 1 00:05:25:68 A1 cyan Because 1
Speaker 1 00:05:27:64 A1 cyan there's so much chaos around us and so much things happening that it's rare that 1
Speaker 1 00:05:31:63 A1 cyan we get to really bask in our enjoyment of accomplishment, which is huge. 1
Speaker 1 00:05:38:92 A1 cyan When you give yourself permission to be unavailable, you 1
Speaker 1 00:05:48:52 A1 cyan get to enjoy that present moment, you get to get into the flow. 1
Speaker 1 00:05:54:16 A1 cyan Most of us understand the reason, like the why, around having time for ourselves. 1
Speaker 1 00:06:00:92 A1 cyan There's so many benefits, right? 1
Speaker 1 00:06:02:71 A1 cyan It improves our mental health. 1
Speaker 1 00:06:04:69 A1 cyan It allows us to grow in a positive direction. 1
Speaker 1 00:06:08:15 A1 cyan We get to cultivate social connections when we have time for ourselves that isn't 1
Speaker 1 00:06:13:75 A1 cyan consumed with taking care of everyone and everything else. 1
Speaker 1 00:06:17:41 A1 cyan We can develop our relationships. 1
Speaker 1 00:06:19:13 A1 cyan We can have mom friends or we can have friends. 1
Speaker 1 00:06:22:90 A1 cyan We can escape the stress and the everyday pressure. 1
Speaker 1 00:06:29:17 A1 cyan We can get back in touch with who we are outside of the roles we play. 1
Speaker 1 00:06:35:00 A1 cyan Too often, I have conversations with moms that end with 1
Speaker 1 00:06:41:33 A1 cyan or that it comes up that women don't even know what it is that they like 1
Speaker 1 00:06:49:13 A1 cyan to do because it's been so long since they've been able to just 1
Speaker 1 00:06:53:29 A1 cyan do that, just be able to even read a book 1
Speaker 1 00:06:57:40 A1 cyan or draw or I have moms who 1
Speaker 1 00:07:05:68 A1 cyan love art and love drawing and painting, and they haven't painted in years. 1
Speaker 1 00:07:12:92 A1 cyan It is so important to engage in activities that are going to bring you joy. 1
Speaker 1 00:07:19:80 A1 cyan When you allow yourself time to engage in these activities without 1
Speaker 1 00:07:24:75 A1 cyan interruption, it brings joy back to your life. 1
Speaker 1 00:07:32:90 A1 cyan It allows you to be you instead of 1
Speaker 1 00:07:35:45 A1 cyan having to deal with all of the pressures that come from the roles you play. 1
Speaker 1 00:07:40:95 A1 cyan Carving out uninterrupted time for 1
Speaker 1 00:07:43:47 A1 cyan creative self expression, it is key for creating a meaningful and fulfilled life. 1
Speaker 1 00:07:49:97 A1 cyan I'm going to repeat that. 1
Speaker 1 00:07:51:75 A1 cyan Carving out uninterrupted time for creative self expression is key to 1
Speaker 1 00:07:57:36 A1 cyan creating a life of meaning and fulfillment. 1
Speaker 1 00:08:03:41 A1 cyan Once you recognize this, once you 1
Speaker 1 00:08:05:35 A1 cyan recognize or realize that you are important, that you matter, 1
Speaker 1 00:08:10:25 A1 cyan that you are worthy of prioritizing, it becomes easier to set those boundaries 1
Speaker 1 00:08:15:60 A1 cyan so that you can create that time for yourself. 1
Speaker 1 00:08:20:57 A1 cyan I think we can all be in agreement why it is important to have time for ourselves, 1
Speaker 1 00:08:27:48 A1 cyan but we struggle with the what, the how and the when to make it happen. 1
Speaker 1 00:08:32:89 A1 cyan What to do, like I mentioned, if it's been so long you don't even know what it is 1
Speaker 1 00:08:36:99 A1 cyan that you'd like to do, that's something that we can work on. 1
Speaker 1 00:08:41:56 A1 cyan That's something you can learn. 1
Speaker 1 00:08:42:87 A1 cyan That's something you can journal about and explore. 1
Speaker 1 00:08:46:52 A1 cyan The how to make it happen. 1
Speaker 1 00:08:50:56 A1 cyan Those are the things that we work on. 1
Speaker 1 00:08:52:97 A1 cyan Those are the things we work on when you participate. 1
Speaker 1 00:08:55:70 A1 cyan I have the Reclaim Your Time or Claim Your Me Time challenge. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:00:65 A1 cyan That's when you learn how to make that time. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:04:50 A1 cyan A lot of it is mindset. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:05:69 A1 cyan Yes, there is logistical 1
Speaker 1 00:09:07:17 A1 cyan things that you can do to create more time in your day or to carve out that time. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:12:73 A1 cyan But I'm telling you, most of it takes place in your mind. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:16:76 A1 cyan And then the when. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:19:16 A1 cyan I always recommend start with your book ends. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:21:31 A1 cyan Your days are typically pretty busy. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:23:88 A1 cyan And so starting with your book ends, maybe 1
Speaker 1 00:09:25:99 A1 cyan in the morning, at night, or on the weekends, that might be the prime place to 1
Speaker 1 00:09:31:53 A1 cyan start when you want to start creating and carving out the time for yourself. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:37:85 A1 cyan We are culturally conditioned to put 1
Speaker 1 00:09:40:51 A1 cyan ourselves last, and so we have to fight against that. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:43:89 A1 cyan And that is why the work of Eve Rodsky is so important because she's making 1
Speaker 1 00:09:49:73 A1 cyan strides in this, changing the systemic expectations. 1
Speaker 1 00:09:58:44 A1 cyan And that these societal demands on motherhood. 1
Speaker 1 00:10:03:61 A1 cyan We're working together to shift. 1
Speaker 1 00:10:05:44 A1 cyan And that's what M obs is that case. 1
Speaker 1 00:10:08:50 A1 cyan You join this group because you recognize that things are not how they should be. 1
Speaker 1 00:10:13:25 A1 cyan And now you're taking action to change it, which is amazing. 1
Speaker 1 00:10:18:87 A1 cyan We're working together in this movement. 1
Speaker 1 00:10:21:88 A1 cyan Here's a quote by Eve Rodsky that I wanted 1
Speaker 1 00:10:23:94 A1 cyan to mention here in this episode or this live. 1
Speaker 1 00:10:27:32 A1 cyan You are complicit 1
Speaker 1 00:10:29:77 A1 cyan in your own oppression when you willingly put yourself and your time second or last. 1
Speaker 1 00:10:39:12 A1 cyan I've mentioned before about this dance that we do. 1
Speaker 1 00:10:42:27 A1 cyan We always think, Oh, if my husband would help more, or, If I could make more money. 1
Speaker 1 00:10:51:32 A1 cyan We have these things that we say, Oh, if something else... 1
Speaker 1 00:10:55:71 A1 cyan We're giving away our power and our 1
Speaker 1 00:10:57:72 A1 cyan control to something else, and we're thinking, If that happened, then I would 1
Speaker 1 00:11:00:71 A1 cyan be able to have more time for myself if my kids grew up, when my kids turn 18. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:04:75 A1 cyan That was a big one for me. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:06:69 A1 cyan I realized, No, I don't have to wait. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:10:13 A1 cyan I can take back my power because I teach people how to treat me. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:16:49 A1 cyan Those boundaries that I set for myself are important. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:19:73 A1 cyan And it was learning how to set those boundaries and why I need to set those 1
Speaker 1 00:11:23:83 A1 cyan boundaries that helped me carve out that time for myself. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:31:77 A1 cyan But I needed to believe it in myself before I was able to make those changes. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:40:96 A1 cyan I want to share a story. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:42:49 A1 cyan Let me just check my comments, see if anyone's watching live. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:49:88 A1 cyan All right. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:51:50 A1 cyan This story. 1
Speaker 1 00:11:53:28 A1 cyan So for our first Christmas together, my husband and I were going to be married 24 1
Speaker 1 00:11:56:91 A1 cyan years this summer for our very first Christmas, he bought me a... 1
Speaker 1 00:12:02:77 A1 cyan We were down in Georgia, my family's in Pennsylvania, his family's in Montana. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:10:40 A1 cyan We were all alone. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:11:92 A1 cyan Our daughter, I was nine months pregnant 1
Speaker 1 00:12:13:76 A1 cyan because our daughter was born January first. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:15:77 A1 cyan Our first Christmas couple, a week before, 1
Speaker 1 00:12:19:10 A1 cyan he bought me a new pair of sneakers and a Nike jacket. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:26:72 A1 cyan Both of them were very unisex. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:29:76 A1 cyan It wasn't a feminine jacket or anything. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:31:58 A1 cyan It was just a sporty jacket. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:33:53 A1 cyan The sneakers were just 1
Speaker 1 00:12:36:65 A1 cyan I don't even know what sneakers, probably Asics or whatever, probably not even that. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:41:32 A1 cyan They're probably like Walmart brand. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:42:75 A1 cyan We were broke poor. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:45:85 A1 cyan Anyway, he bought me this stuff. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:50:13 A1 cyan And that night we were going to... 1
Speaker 1 00:12:55:50 A1 cyan He was in the service, so it was like our friends down at the base. 1
Speaker 1 00:12:59:40 A1 cyan We were going to probably Christmas party or whatever. 1
Speaker 1 00:13:01:97 A1 cyan And he asked if he could wear the jacket and the shoes. 1
Speaker 1 00:13:07:61 A1 cyan We still joke about this because I'm like, 1
Speaker 1 00:13:10:29 A1 cyan he gave it to me for Christmas, and then he wore them out on Christmas night. 1
Speaker 1 00:13:17:92 A1 cyan And when I think back at that moment, it was like this metaphor of the next 12 1
Speaker 1 00:13:24:23 A1 cyan years of our married life that I was giving my all. 1
Speaker 1 00:13:27:96 A1 cyan I had no bounties. I couldn't say no. 1
Speaker 1 00:13:30:73 A1 cyan When we were married, I just didn't have the guts, I guess, to say no. 1
Speaker 1 00:13:36:30 A1 cyan But although I always felt like there's nothing that I have. 1
Speaker 1 00:13:42:13 A1 cyan I entered this marriage and everything is ours, ours. 1
Speaker 1 00:13:46:80 A1 cyan And there was this piece of me, I just 1
Speaker 1 00:13:48:37 A1 cyan craved my own stuff, my own things, yet I didn't know how to ask for it. 1
Speaker 1 00:13:55:21 A1 cyan I didn't know how to protect it or guard it. 1
Speaker 1 00:13:59:53 A1 cyan And I realized that was the same thing with my time. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:07:21 A1 cyan I didn't know how to guard it. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:08:85 A1 cyan I didn't see it as something that I needed to protect. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:11:69 A1 cyan And so I was willing to just give it all away. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:14:51 A1 cyan I was willing to just let other people take it. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:17:71 A1 cyan And even my loved ones, especially. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:21:32 A1 cyan And it was this underlying assumption that my time was infinite. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:31:10 A1 cyan That it's so easy to just give away day after day, hour after hour. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:35:89 A1 cyan Take it. Take my time. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:38:12 A1 cyan Take my time. Take my time. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:40:25 A1 cyan But when you give yourself permission to 1
Speaker 1 00:14:42:77 A1 cyan be unavailable, it allows you to protect and guard that 1
Speaker 1 00:14:46:85 A1 cyan time because you're never going to get that time back. 1
Speaker 1 00:14:51:00 A1 cyan You have to reframe the way you view time, 1
Speaker 1 00:14:57:92 A1 cyan the value of your time, because the number one reason, mom, for 1
Speaker 1 00:15:04:47 A1 cyan not engaging in practices of self care or self 1
Speaker 1 00:15:11:53 A1 cyan expression or pursuing their passions or living their dreams or doing all of the 1
Speaker 1 00:15:16:19 A1 cyan things that make you is because they don't have time. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:21:52 A1 cyan You do have time. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:23:37 A1 cyan I promise you have time, but you're not guarding it. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:26:69 A1 cyan You're not telling people I am unavailable at this time. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:30:29 A1 cyan The world is not going to fall apart. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:32:37 A1 cyan I learned that the hard way, right? 1
Speaker 1 00:15:34:35 A1 cyan I know that you are learning that, too. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:38:13 A1 cyan It is okay to ask for help. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:40:33 A1 cyan It is okay to lean in on your support system. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:43:21 A1 cyan It is okay to be unavailable. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:46:50 A1 cyan It is okay to protect your time. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:51:52 A1 cyan You are the only one that can give yourself this permission. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:57:72 A1 cyan Nobody else is going to give you this permission to you. 1
Speaker 1 00:15:59:89 A1 cyan They're going to ask, Hey, let me wear your sneakers. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:02:88 A1 cyan Let me wear your coats. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:04:30 A1 cyan Give me your time. Give me your time. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:05:71 A1 cyan Give me your time. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:07:10 A1 cyan I'm telling you, it's time to say enough. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:10:80 A1 cyan It's time for you to value your time. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:13:50 A1 cyan Allow yourself that gift of being unavailable. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:19:12 A1 cyan It takes practice, right? It takes strength. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:22:32 A1 cyan It takes confidence. It takes courage. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:25:44 A1 cyan But that is what you will be learning here in the Mops That Cakes Facebook group, in 1
Speaker 1 00:16:29:47 A1 cyan the Super M ood detox, in my coaching program. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:32:10 A1 cyan That is exactly what we work on is helping you recognize that you are worthy. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:39:89 A1 cyan Your time is worthy of protecting. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:42:69 A1 cyan You are so much more than a mom. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:52:48 A1 cyan Today, I want you to jump into the comments. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:56:57 A1 cyan If you're watching this in Replay, don't forget #replay. 1
Speaker 1 00:16:59:73 A1 cyan If you have any questions about this, let me know. 1
Speaker 1 00:17:02:53 A1 cyan But I want you to get into the comments 1
Speaker 1 00:17:04:65 A1 cyan and I want you to answer, what would an uninterrupted day or even an 1
Speaker 1 00:17:10:70 A1 cyan uninterrupted hour look like if you gave yourself permission to be unavailable? 1
Speaker 1 00:17:16:80 A1 cyan I have a podcast episode that I did. 1
Speaker 1 00:17:19:10 A1 cyan I'll throw the link. 1
Speaker 1 00:17:20:40 A1 cyan It's called Getting into the Flow. 1
Speaker 1 00:17:21:73 A1 cyan It was an interview I did with Rina Lang, and it was all about that hell. 1
Speaker 1 00:17:28:25 A1 cyan Why is it so important to get into the flow and how can we get into the flow? 1
Speaker 1 00:17:33:69 A1 cyan What I mean by the flow is that uninterrupted time where you are the 1
Speaker 1 00:17:38:71 A1 cyan sustained attention, like being able to focus on one task. 1
Speaker 1 00:17:42:28 A1 cyan When we are struggling with the mental 1
Speaker 1 00:17:44:39 A1 cyan load and it's heavy and we feel pulled in a million different directions, 1
Speaker 1 00:17:49:25 A1 cyan that means that it's even more important to ensure to make yourself unavailable and 1
Speaker 1 00:17:55:60 A1 cyan to carve out that time, that uninterrupted time to focus on a single task, 1
Speaker 1 00:18:03:80 A1 cyan to give yourself that space to think, to hear your thoughts, to sit in silence, 1
Speaker 1 00:18:09:00 A1 cyan to get in touch with who you are, to check in. 1
Speaker 1 00:18:10:87 A1 cyan There might be reasons why you are avoiding, why you are staying so busy, 1
Speaker 1 00:18:16:80 A1 cyan because those emotions may be uncomfortable for you. 1
Speaker 1 00:18:20:53 A1 cyan But that's all the more reason why you need to learn to be okay with sitting with 1
Speaker 1 00:18:25:43 A1 cyan your emotions, acknowledging it, getting in touch with the thoughts that are 1
Speaker 1 00:18:29:59 A1 cyan creating those emotions for you, because only then can you start changing them to 1
Speaker 1 00:18:34:80 A1 cyan create the life that you want to be living. 1
Speaker 1 00:18:37:53 A1 cyan So get in the comments, let me know what you would do with that day or hour of 1
Speaker 1 00:18:41:53 A1 cyan uninterrupted sustained time want to give yourself permission to be unavailable. 1
Speaker 1 00:18:48:10 A1 cyan Let me know. Let's talk about it. 1
Speaker 1 00:18:50:41 A1 cyan The super mom detox, I already mentioned it. 1
Speaker 1 00:18:53:11 A1 cyan It is my one on one personalized coaching program where we walk through all of the 1
Speaker 1 00:18:59:32 A1 cyan things that I just talked about today, giving yourself permission, shifting your 1
Speaker 1 00:19:03:19 A1 cyan self beliefs, the unrealistic expectations that are keeping you stuck, 1
Speaker 1 00:19:08:10 A1 cyan and learning how you can be more than the roles you play, be more than 1
Speaker 1 00:19:14:47 A1 cyan the mom, be more than the wife, and be more than the person you are at work. 1
Speaker 1 00:19:19:36 A1 cyan So if you want to find out more about that, definitely let me know. 1
Speaker 1 00:19:22:95 A1 cyan Reach out to me via DM. 1
Speaker 1 00:19:24:43 A1 cyan Send me an email, [email protected] Com. 1
Speaker 1 00:19:27:39 A1 cyan Let's talk about it. 1
Speaker 1 00:19:28:93 A1 cyan I'd love to share with you more about this program because it's an awesome program 1
Speaker 1 00:19:33:67 A1 cyan and it's really going to help you hang up your super mom cape. 1

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