Whether you're a mom, a partner, a friend, or anyone navigating the intricate web of human connections, understanding the significance of knowing what you need is paramount. By recognizing your unique needs, you can effectively ask the right person for the specific relational nutrients that can enrich your bonds.
Our relationships thrive when there's a reciprocal exchange of relational nutrients. These essential elements are crucial for mutual growth and connection. However, to make this exchange effective, it's equally important to know what you need and from whom.
In the video, I share about many relational nutrients, but let's review a few of these so that you get an idea of the importance of why we need to identify and communicate what we need.
1. Validation: Validation begins with acknowledging your own emotions and understanding your need for validation. By doing so, you can effectively communicate this need to the right...
As moms, we often find ourselves navigating a challenging journey filled with love, joy, and responsibilities. I want to begin by sharing a bit of my own story, which I believe many of you can relate to.
Recently, I've been on a quest to find balance between my demanding work schedule, family responsibilities, and, most importantly, my own health. Like many of you, I've encountered obstacles that make finding "me-time" feel like a distant dream. But it's crucial, and in this blog post, we'll dive deep into why it's not just important but necessary for moms to make time for themselves.
Defining Me-Time and Its Significance
First things first, let's define what me-time is. Me-time is that precious, intentional period where you put yourself first. It's an opportunity to focus on your needs, desires, and overall well-being. Why is it crucial? Because it has a profound impact on our physical and mental health, our relationships, and our overall happiness.
Imagine me-time as a pause...
The results are in and it is just as I suspected- I'm a mess. I'm no doctor but I could just feel that I was all over the place, which is why I wanted to go to the naturopathic doc in the first place.
My follow up appointment is not for another three weeks, but fortunately, my sister-in-law is a nurse practitioner and can read lab results so last night I showed her what I've got and she analyzed the numbers.
First of all, my heart looks good, or all the numbers that would point to my heart being good- were well in the normal range.
TSH which is what they use to measure my thyroid function is high, which is somewhat surprising since I am pretty religious about taking my medication each day.
That probably has to get retested and my meds adjusted.
Uric acid and potassium are high too, which when I took it into my own hands and looked on Google, this meant that I was having kidney failure!
But, according to my SIL, I am not dying. I do need to make adjustments though and eat more...
I've always been a traditional medicine type of girl and thought anything else was kind of woo but recently I attended a local women's retreat and one of the speakers was a naturopathic doctor who introduced me to the functional medicine matrix.
I immediately knew that this was something I wanted to explore more. If you're unfamiliar, the matrix is a tool to help clinicians examine the body systems, symptoms, and risk factors associated with their patient’s health conditions.
It takes into account mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of health and lifestyle factors. Whereas traditional medicine aims to assess symptoms, seeking to name a diagnosis and prescribe medication, functional medicine is more focused on finding the root cause(s) of a health condition.
When I heard the doctor speak, I was drawn to her. Her mother stood in the back of the room, walking in and out while bouncing the doctor's baby on her hip while the woman up front shared with us her...
As mothers, our lives often revolve around the needs of our children, leaving little room for our own personal growth and fulfillment. However, it's crucial to remember that prioritizing ourselves is not selfish—it's necessary for our overall well-being.
Let's explore the importance of reclaiming our sense of self and how coaching can be a transformative tool for busy moms like us.
We dedicate ourselves wholeheartedly to our children, which is a beautiful thing. However, it's essential to maintain our own identity and pursue our dreams and passions.
Reclaiming our sense of self is not only beneficial for personal growth, but it also enables us to be better mothers. Taking a moment to reflect on our own journeys can help us understand the significance of balancing our roles as moms and individuals.
Feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or uncertain about the next steps in life is common, especially during times of transition or personal growth.
If you find yourself at a crossroads,...
Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed and burnt out as a mother? Do you struggle to set boundaries with your kids or loved ones?
Today, we will be debunking common myths about boundaries and sharing the truth about setting healthy ones.
As a mother, it's easy to put your own needs on the back burner and focus solely on your children and their well-being. However, setting boundaries is essential for maintaining your mental health and well-being.
Boundaries are simply guidelines that you establish for yourself and others to create a sense of safety, respect, and balance in your life.
Setting boundaries is often seen as selfish or unnecessary, but this couldn't be further from the truth.
Myth #1: Setting boundaries is selfish.
This myth is false and can actually lead to burnout. When you don't set boundaries, you are essentially giving others permission to take advantage of your time and energy. This can leave you feeling drained, resentful, and overwhelmed.
By setting boundaries,...
Motherhood can be one of the most rewarding experiences in a woman's life. But it can also be one of the most challenging. There's no doubt that being a mother comes with a lot of pressure, especially with unrealistic expectations of what it means to be a "good" mother.
From society's expectations to the pressure we put on ourselves, it's easy to get caught up in the idea that we need to be perfect.
Let’s take a deep dive into the impact of the expectations we hold about our role as a mom and explore the ways in which unrealistic expectations can lead to feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and shame. Of course, we’ll also attempt to rewrite the definition of what it means to be a "good" mom.
First, let's talk about the unrealistic expectations that many of us face. Society has long held a certain image of what a "perfect" mother looks like. She's patient, nurturing, and always puts her children's needs before her own. She never loses her temper, never makes mistakes,...
Have you ever found yourself saying yes to something, even though every fiber of your being was screaming no? Have you ever felt guilty for not being able to say no to a friend, family member, or colleague?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you are not alone.
Why is it so stinkin' hard to just say no to people? The answer is simple: we want to please others.
As mothers, we have been conditioned to put the needs of others before our own. We are told to be selfless, to always be there for our children, our spouses, and our friends. And while there is nothing wrong with being there for others, it becomes problematic when we neglect our own needs.
When we say yes to someone, even when we don't want to, we are essentially saying no to ourselves. We are giving away our time, energy, and resources to someone or something that doesn't align with our values and priorities. This can leave us feeling drained, overwhelmed, and resentful.
So why do we continue to say yes when...
As mothers, we understand the importance of taking time for ourselves. We know that in order to stay mentally healthy and experience positive growth, we must carve out time for ourselves away from the roles we play in our daily lives. However, too often we struggle with the what, how, and when of making this happen.
We are culturally conditioned to put ourselves last, rather than recognizing the value of our own time and carving out uninterrupted moments for creative self-expression. That's why it's so important to understand that our time is finite and should be guarded and respected.
Eve Rodsky, author of “Fair Play” and “Find Your Unicorn Space,” captures our dilemma perfectly when she says, “You are complicit in your own oppression when you willingly put yourself and your time second or last.”
So how do we make time for ourselves? Well, first of all, we should strive to create moments of “flow”. Flow is a mental state...
Have you ever wanted to do something that seemed impossible? Do you feel like you have a dream or goal that is just too big to tackle? If so, then you can take heart in knowing that the impossible is only impossible until you make it possible.
It doesn’t matter how big or small your dream is, it is only impossible until you put in the courage and dedication needed to make it a reality. Your success will be determined by the effort you put forth, and the only way to unlock your true potential is to keep fighting until you’ve reached your destination.
That’s why it’s so important to have the courage and dedication to keep pushing forward. It’s easy to give up when things get tough, but if you can push through and stay focused on the end goal, then you will eventually reach it.
So, how can you move towards living the life you were meant to lead? Here are three tips that can get you started: