Confessions of a Super-Mom: It's Not about the Weight

I've always been a traditional medicine type of girl and thought anything else was kind of woo but recently I attended a local women's retreat and one of the speakers was a naturopathic doctor who introduced me to the functional medicine matrix. 

I immediately knew that this was something I wanted to explore more. If you're unfamiliar, the matrix is a tool to help clinicians examine the body systems, symptoms, and risk factors associated with their patient’s health conditions.

It takes into account mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of health and lifestyle factors. Whereas traditional medicine aims to assess symptoms, seeking to name a diagnosis and prescribe medication, functional medicine is more focused on finding the root cause(s) of a health condition.

When I heard the doctor speak, I was drawn to her. Her mother stood in the back of the room, walking in and out while bouncing the doctor's baby on her hip while the woman up front shared with us her...

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Ready to Reclaim Yourself?

 

As mothers, our lives often revolve around the needs of our children, leaving little room for our own personal growth and fulfillment. However, it's crucial to remember that prioritizing ourselves is not selfish—it's necessary for our overall well-being.

Let's explore the importance of reclaiming our sense of self and how coaching can be a transformative tool for busy moms like us.

We dedicate ourselves wholeheartedly to our children, which is a beautiful thing. However, it's essential to maintain our own identity and pursue our dreams and passions.

Reclaiming our sense of self is not only beneficial for personal growth, but it also enables us to be better mothers. Taking a moment to reflect on our own journeys can help us understand the significance of balancing our roles as moms and individuals.

Feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or uncertain about the next steps in life is common, especially during times of transition or personal growth.

If you find yourself at a crossroads,...

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The Truth about Boundaries

 

Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed and burnt out as a mother? Do you struggle to set boundaries with your kids or loved ones?

Today, we will be debunking common myths about boundaries and sharing the truth about setting healthy ones.

As a mother, it's easy to put your own needs on the back burner and focus solely on your children and their well-being. However, setting boundaries is essential for maintaining your mental health and well-being.

Boundaries are simply guidelines that you establish for yourself and others to create a sense of safety, respect, and balance in your life.

Setting boundaries is often seen as selfish or unnecessary, but this couldn't be further from the truth.

Myth #1: Setting boundaries is selfish.

This myth is false and can actually lead to burnout. When you don't set boundaries, you are essentially giving others permission to take advantage of your time and energy. This can leave you feeling drained, resentful, and overwhelmed.

By setting boundaries,...

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Redefining "Good Mom"

 

Motherhood can be one of the most rewarding experiences in a woman's life. But it can also be one of the most challenging. There's no doubt that being a mother comes with a lot of pressure, especially with unrealistic expectations of what it means to be a "good" mother. 

From society's expectations to the pressure we put on ourselves, it's easy to get caught up in the idea that we need to be perfect.

Let’s take a deep dive into the impact of the expectations we hold about our role as a mom and explore the ways in which unrealistic expectations can lead to feelings of inadequacy, guilt, and shame. Of course, we’ll also attempt to rewrite the definition of what it means to be a "good" mom.

First, let's talk about the unrealistic expectations that many of us face. Society has long held a certain image of what a "perfect" mother looks like. She's patient, nurturing, and always puts her children's needs before her own. She never loses her temper, never makes mistakes,...

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Why Can't We Just Say "No"?

 

Have you ever found yourself saying yes to something, even though every fiber of your being was screaming no? Have you ever felt guilty for not being able to say no to a friend, family member, or colleague?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you are not alone.

Why is it so stinkin' hard to just say no to people? The answer is simple: we want to please others.

As mothers, we have been conditioned to put the needs of others before our own. We are told to be selfless, to always be there for our children, our spouses, and our friends. And while there is nothing wrong with being there for others, it becomes problematic when we neglect our own needs.

When we say yes to someone, even when we don't want to, we are essentially saying no to ourselves. We are giving away our time, energy, and resources to someone or something that doesn't align with our values and priorities. This can leave us feeling drained, overwhelmed, and resentful.

So why do we continue to say yes when...

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Permission to Be Unavailable

 

As mothers, we understand the importance of taking time for ourselves. We know that in order to stay mentally healthy and experience positive growth, we must carve out time for ourselves away from the roles we play in our daily lives. However, too often we struggle with the what, how, and when of making this happen.

We are culturally conditioned to put ourselves last, rather than recognizing the value of our own time and carving out uninterrupted moments for creative self-expression. That's why it's so important to understand that our time is finite and should be guarded and respected. 

Eve Rodsky, author of “Fair Play” and “Find Your Unicorn Space,” captures our dilemma perfectly when she says, “You are complicit in your own oppression when you willingly put yourself and your time second or last.” 

So how do we make time for ourselves? Well, first of all, we should strive to create moments of “flow”. Flow is a mental state...

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Unlock Your Potential

 

Have you ever wanted to do something that seemed impossible? Do you feel like you have a dream or goal that is just too big to tackle? If so, then you can take heart in knowing that the impossible is only impossible until you make it possible.

It doesn’t matter how big or small your dream is, it is only impossible until you put in the courage and dedication needed to make it a reality. Your success will be determined by the effort you put forth, and the only way to unlock your true potential is to keep fighting until you’ve reached your destination.

That’s why it’s so important to have the courage and dedication to keep pushing forward. It’s easy to give up when things get tough, but if you can push through and stay focused on the end goal, then you will eventually reach it.

So, how can you move towards living the life you were meant to lead? Here are three tips that can get you started:

  1. Set Goals– Setting goals will help you stay focused and...
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Step Up and Set Boundaries

 

Today, we’re discussing an important topic—setting boundaries. As mothers, it’s easy to get wrapped up in the daily hustle and bustle of parenting and career without taking time for yourself.

Setting boundaries is a great way to take charge of your life and create a better balance between your family and professional life. It’s not always easy to set boundaries, but it’s so important for your mental and emotional well-being.

When you set boundaries, you’re telling the world that you are in control of your own life and that you won’t allow yourself to be taken advantage of. Boundaries also make it easier to ask for help when you need it, and to say no to commitments that don’t align with your values.

So, how can you get started setting boundaries?

Here are a few tips:

1. Identify Your Needs: Take some time to think about what your physical, emotional, and mental needs are. Once you’ve identified them, it’s easier to set...

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Unequal Labor on the Home Front

 

It's no secret that the struggle is real for working moms. The expectations placed on them by society, their families, and even themselves can be overwhelming. Not only do they have to balance a full-time job, but they are also responsible for taking care of their children, running a household, and often times handling their spouse's responsibilities as well. This can lead to extreme levels of stress, resentment, and detachment from their spouses. 

The problem with the “help” a husband may offer is that it often assumes that the job was primarily her responsibility, and that he is only offering assistance out of obligation. This puts an unfair burden on the wife, who is expected to take initiative and make all the decisions in the home. When a dad is willing to help, he often has to be asked what needs to be done; this gives the impression that he is incapable or unhelpful, when in reality he is more than capable and willing to take part in the family duties. 

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Confessions of a Super-Mom: The Invisible Load

 

This past summer, I was on the verge of asking my husband for a divorce. There, I said it. Spoiler alert: We are now working on making our marriage stronger than ever and I'll share how later in this post.

Because my husband travels for work, I felt disconnected, alone, and at the end of my rope. He was quite literally a paycheck. To protect myself from being on an emotional rollercoaster every time he left, I detached altogether. We were no longer a team.

I felt like I was doing it all. 

Here I was, building a business where I was coaching moms about how to not do it all

and I was at a place where I couldn't figure out how to not do it all myself.

I was exhausted, really. I had been doing individual counseling for two years, working on various aspects of my life and the conversation always seemed to come back to my relationship with my husband.

A little back history- we've been married 23 years and it was a shotgun wedding. We had only known one another for a few months and...

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