Staying Driven

 

When we are feeling motivated, watch out! We are driven towards our goals, taking action, and doing what we need to to make sh*t happen. It usually happens when our creativity is sparked or we begin a new project. We have all these ideas and are excited to move towards the goal. It’s why New Year’s Resolutions are a thing. It’s that fresh start, where we have almost this blank slate ready to fill. 

We feel inspired and then we begin to take action and as the project wears on, we tend to not feel so inspired anymore. We step back, waiting for that feeling to return and when it doesn’t, we say we have lost motivation. It leads us to procrastination as we are just “waiting” to feel motivated again. We get hung up on what's blocking our way instead of finding solutions. Then, we are no longer driven to complete or meet the goal we set out to accomplish in the first place.

 Right now, you may be mulling over some resolutions that you’d...

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Why We Need Personal Goals

 

Let’s talk about setting goals for personal development. Working towards specific goals will allow you to live your life with intention and these days, given all the unpredictability and the unknown of the world, it is imperative that you know where you are heading. Personal goals provide you with a compass because as they say, if you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time!

We’ve talked before about becoming your best self and even if you are struggling with any number of mental health issues, your best self is who you are despite or perhaps because of your struggles. You see, you are unique, one-of-a-kind, and so your goals should be too. The direction you are going will be different from any of those people around you. 

Your goals are as unique as you are.

Which is exactly why it’s important to identify and set goals specific to your life and the life you want to be living. As humans, we naturally want our life to hold meaning, we need purpose and...

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Are You Fully Present?

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Are You Fully Present?
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Being fully present is something that most of us moms seek to be but the fast-paced, do-more world we live in along with our own expectations of what it means to be “good enough” keeps us from actually being completely engaged in a single task at a time. We feel forced to multitask just to keep up and to feel any sort of accomplishment yet this often leaves us feeling disconnected and even more overwhelmed. Not being present moves us away from the sense of happiness we seek to feel.

Being present requires a focused engagement of every aspect of our being including the physical, mental, emotional and even the spiritual. This is not easy to do in these modern times, especially when we are up against the hustle culture that permeates our society. We are bombarded 24/7 with distractions and demands for our presence.

We owe it to ourselves and to those we love to learn how to be fully present in the here and now.

We resort to multitasking as a way to check off our to-do list...

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The Importance of Realizing your Strengths

 

Back in the day when I was filling out job applications as a teenager, I would get to the question about skills and qualifications, and I would freeze. I would ask my mom, who seemed to know me best at that time, “hey mom, what am I good at?” She’d ramble off a list and I’d dispute each one, and add maybe one or two that I agreed with to the application.

Later, as Google came around and my confidence grew a bit, I would google “strengths” when I got to that question, and readily have available a long list of skills and character traits to choose from I would write down which I think I bring to the table.

This past summer, I was reading a book called “Your Message Matters” by Jonathan Milligan. It’s all about identifying what you have to share with the world and finding your voice. In it, Milligan suggests to email ten people closest to you and ask them each for three words that describe you.

Are you showing up as your authentic...

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Confidence Comes With Action

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Confidence is an attitude, a way of feeling and our feelings are influenced by the thoughts we think and the beliefs we hold but can we just think “I want to feel confident” and wish it into existence? Even though it would be nice, the short answer is “no.”  

So how exactly do you feel more confident? How do you increase the belief you have in yourself? The answer is you take action. You take action against that which you feel unconfident.

When I was starting my business, I had no idea what I needed to do. I had the education, the experience, and the background that would support building a successful business but frankly, I was at a loss. It all seemed way too overwhelming and because of that, I had no idea where to even begin.

I started following coaches on YouTube and on social media and they made it look so easy yet the doubts were rampant in my mind. The inner mean girl was loving that I stayed inside my comfort zone. I yearned for the...

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Cultivate Habits that Support Lasting Change

 

If I asked you what habits you currently have, you may say that you brush your teeth every day, you park in the same spot at the office, you take the same route to the bank, you always have a salad with your dinner. 

Habits are the things you do without thinking because the actions have become so much part of you, you no longer question whether they are serving you. They just happen on auto-pilot.

Have you heard of such a thing as decision fatigue? That’s when you have made so many decisions, that you are actually fatigued. I’m not referring to big, life changing decisions, but rather decisions like what you are going to wear, which bowl you will eat your oatmeal from, whether you should pull out of the driveway before or after that car coming down the street passes you. 

These little, minute decisions add up to a point where we are actually tired from thinking so much. It’s why at the end of the day, despite having committed (for the hundredth time) to...

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Thoughts from my Ultimate Self-Care Practice: A Solo-cation

Every February, my husband and I fly off together to escape the Montana winter and to spend some days in the Floridian sunshine. But this year, I am taking this vacation solo.

My family thinks I'm having a mid-life crisis since I've never taken a vacation all by myself, aside from traveling back to the Philly area to visit my parents. My sister-in-law asked me if I was cheating on her brother, because why else would I want to go alone?!

Everyone is wondering why I decided to take this trip by myself this year and so let me give a bit of an explanation.

First, I am totally landlocked in Montana and spent every summer of my youth at the Jersey shore. I love the salty air and the feel of my feet in the sand. Not having this in at least 6 months has been hard on my spirit. I've gone longer without it in the past, but with the restrictions of COVID and extra anxiety that arose this past year, I NEEDED it!

Second, Jason was totally against travelling since we had our house on the market...

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Where's the Instruction Manual for Life as a Mom?

 
Parenting is hard- wouldn’t you agree? It doesn’t come with an instruction book and even if it did, I probably would have lost it by now!
 
I did have a stack of books that told me best practices. I was a big fan of What to Expect When Expecting. Even before giving birth, I was already a few chapters into What to Expect the First Year.
 
I wanted to make sure I knew exactly what to expect when it came to birthing and raising a baby.
 
This makes me laugh now! There isn’t a book on earth that could have prepared me for my life after having babies.
 
I suppose I found comfort thinking that I was prepared. Comfort in thinking that all births and children were universal and that if I just learned what I needed to do as a mom, then life would be amazing!
 
After having six kids, I’m pretty sure I could write a book on the topic, but fact is, I have no idea what I’m doing!
 
I recall a few years ago, telling my...
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Let's Crush Those Dang Excuses!

 
For the longest time, the excuse I gave for not practicing self-care was that I didn’t have the time. That’s what I told myself.
 
And it’s true. I really didn’t have the time to do anything for myself.
 
I was busy and on a mission to be everything for everyone else- the kids’ homeroom mom, a Girl Scout leader, on the board of a MOMS Club, and volunteering all over town.
 
When that wasn’t enough, I decided that I should be my kids’ teacher as well and pulled the kids out of school to homeschool them.
 
Even then, I continued to wear all my hats AND added more hats such as teaching at the local homeschool co-op we joined and hosting field trips as needed, which probably wasn’t needed as often as I had thought!
 
I made sure that I was too busy to do anything for myself. But the question I should have been asking myself was...why was I keeping myself so busy?
 
What was my bigger excuse?
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Time is Flying By

 
This past Friday night, we celebrated our youngest daughter’s birthday. She turned seven years old.
 
Seven years old. I still can’t believe it.
 
I don’t think I ever cried when any of my kids had a birthday, but I did for Giana’s.
 
The night before, I was bagging up her store-bought cookies (COVID restricted us baking cupcakes) and it hit me like a ton of bricks. So much so, I had to brace myself on the counter.
 
That night would be the last time we had a six year old. Tears are coming to my eyes now just writing this.
 
Our little girl is growing up even though I tried telling her that she wasn’t allowed to grow up! Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.
 
Time marches on and each moment is fleeting.
 
Which is part of the reason why us moms feel so very guilty when it comes to spending time on ourselves.
 
We can’t replace time. It’s our most precious resource, that's for sure. When...
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